Hey, I’ve been here. Not too long ago, I made the decision to take down my family’s house of cards. Even though your arguing has become so terrible that your house could be an official war zone and you checked out emotionally years ago, divorce is not an easy decision. Especially, if you have kids. Being in a bad marriage is stressful for all. And stress kills. It kills your soul slowly like cancer. This can lead to serious poor health and more commonly, severe depression. No matter how happy you are to leave this person who is NOT RIGHT for you, there is tremendous guilt.
If and when the time comes, to make that decision to get the BIG “D”, there are many unexpected pros of your new lifestyle status. Divorce can be a good thing and I believe that kids can thrive post-divorce. After all, divorce isn’t the cause of a broken home, it’s a result of it. I mean a tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. But let’s focus on these reasons that put in perspective (female perspective that is), why making a solid divorce comeback proves that not only does life go on, but it gets even better. 🌟 Here’s why you should fall back in love with your life again.
FREEDOOOOOOM!!!!!!!!
You can do it YOUR WAY. You can do whatever you want and answer to NOBODY. There is no more asking permission. “The Crown” marathon. YES. Can anyone ask you, “Who are you texting?” NO. Want to go to Miami with the girls? YES. Ben and Jerry’s at midnight? YES. Not having to listen to someone. PRICELESS. #NoMicromanagement
Bye-Bye In-Laws. Just the thought of not having to hear your mother-in-law’s voice is orgasmic. Almost reason enough to pull that divorce plug.
Dating again in your 40s or 50s….F*CK YEAH!!! You’ve just played your get out of jail free card in Divorced Monopoly and you get to morally and legally attack anyone that you are currently dating and set up any kind of “property” that you might find fitting. Your options are limitless. You can flirt and that thrill of a first kiss. You can date 5 different people if you want. You can be 25 again. Dating is fun and exciting. You have zero expectations and you’ve got your kids so no dating agenda. License to have a good time. Let’s talk about SEX!! You’re actually getting some that you want right now and there’s that tantalizing, delicious possibility that you actually might fall in love. So swipe right damn it!
I can have my own opinions. I don’t miss the arguments. The battles. My life is soooo much more peaceful now. #ZEN
No more getting up in the middle of the night and plunging into the toilet for a freaking cold bird bath because your dumbo husband left the seat up!!! #NoMoreWetAss
There is soooo much more space in the house. You inherit his closet, dresser, and bathroom drawers. Don’t even get me started on his side of the bed. Girl, you get to sprawl out every night and lay across that whole spacious mattress. You realize just how much you like sleeping alone. #EXTRASpacious
You no longer have to make up your ridiculous scenarios to get out of sex. AKA…”I have cramps” or “Don’t wake me up I have to get up with the baby” and you get to stop pretending to snore so he won’t wake you up for the dreaded “Weenie Hug” oh the HORROR!!! 😨
I f*cking LOVE my last name again!!! Ewww…who was I before?? His name never fit my persona and now you get to rock your birth name and be true to yourself. You start reintroducing yourself to everyone as if you are a 20 something. Feels empowering! Shedding that old self. I will always be a WATERS. #H2O#Home
You are no longer his maid. You don’t have to wash the dishes he left in the sink or pick up his crusty undies from the floor. 😬😬 His toothpaste gook is no longer in your sink and nobody is blowing their nose in your shower anymore. SOOOO Gross. Cleaning up after kids is challenging enough without his crap thrown on top of it. #WINNING
You get your girlfriends back. Now that you are an every-other-weekend parent, you are forced to take time for yourself, away from your kids. You make plans with your girls and your time is your own. You actually take better care of yourself. You’ve probably lost a few lbs and have a new inner peace from less stress. Being a young wife and mother, I lost myself. I fell into that Mom role and my own goals for myself got buried. Now, with this newfound sense of freedom and independence, you rediscover hobbies, interests, new professional directions, and friendships. #EXTRABonus
You will emerge stronger and wiser. After I survived the process of divorce, I picked myself up and brushed myself off. I was forced to learn how to fix toilets, shovel a snowy driveway, hang pictures, dealt with broken cars, and packed up moving trucks. I’ve adapted and independence feels good. I’ve learned to be proud of my male side. Of course, there were plenty of days that I thought I couldn’t do it alone. Sometimes the emotional toll of being a single Mom was too much to bear. But I did it, no matter what. Now I look back at these hard times and I’m proud of myself for powering through these challenges with strength and courage. I am one hell of a force now. My 28-year-old self is proud of me. 😊
If you feel that he’s not the one you need in life, dare to divorce and become the woman you’ve always wanted to be. There is no need to be afraid of failure. It will be the making of you. Live your life the way you want, life is short. Happy people = happy kids. All lightheartedness aside, divorce is a serious decision; but if you feel it’s right for you, don’t hesitate to make the first step toward a better life. 🌈
