There are two things I know in life: clothes and men. I have multiple close friendships with men so let’s just say that I am on the inside track. I have been allowed into the man cave and have taken notes. Almost everyone I know wants the answer to this question, “How do I become more attractive to the opposite sex?” I know so many of you are either single in their 20s or divorced in their 30s, 40s, or 50s and are wondering just how to maximize their dating wheelhouse. Have you ever seen or heard of a woman who is not particularly gorgeous but she has men chasing her and asking her out constantly? I’m sure you have come across a woman like this, who somehow has high quality men wildly attracted to her. What is it that “these women” have that makes them so irresistible? Have no fear, I am here to reveal the truth. In this post, I will take you through the most common things you can do to make yourself more attractive to men and radically up your dating numbers. I’m giving you this information from both a man’s prospective and from me, an EXTRA expert in the field. These, of course, are opinions at the end of the day. I realize there are always exceptions and that there are different people who like different things.
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1. Manage Your Vibe
So much of how you come across has to do with your internal mental state. This is your overall persona that you give off to men. If you are in a bad mood, for example, and are wearing a resting bitch face, even if you pretend not to be, it will come across to him. Making this positive mindset a priority is a huge win when being more attractive.
Why do you ask?
Men are automatically attracted to happy women. A smile is something that can catch any man’s attraction; it means you are open and ready to flirt. Eye contact is not only a signal of romantic interest, but it can actually make someone attracted to you. Men can sense this pleasant vibe and they want to be around you. It is like a moth to a flame, they can’t help themselves and are instinctively captivated. So leave the “I just sucked a grapefruit” face at home!!!#EXTRAentertaining
2. Be Fun
Experience life to its fullest and take the time to enjoy the things that make you happy, let loose, and really laugh. Do not dwell on your problems. Men do not want a Debbie Downer. Men are attracted to happy women who smile and laugh a lot. And don’t try to fake it; it comes off as phony and is guy repellent.#EXTRAsmiles
3. Be Confident
Ask any man, self confidence is crazy sexy and powerful. It’s not the prettiest woman in the room who gets the attention, it’s the most confident woman. Confident women are glowing, attractive, and infectious. Men go where they feel pulled and confident women give off that magnetic energy that does the pulling. We are talking mega charm and charisma. Self-confidence doesn’t need to schmooze or manipulate because it broadcasts a person’s full on acceptance of who they are without even trying. You are comfortable with who you are…flaws and all. If you are comfortable, you will find that everything you do is naturally and effortlessly more attractive to men. And confident women DO NOT compare themselves to other women. Put this mindset aside because you will only suffer through comparison and this is not attractive. Confidence is not arrogance and know the difference. The best thing to do is be your best self and focus on the things that you can control and improve upon. This will make you feel good. Build up the other women around you and men will be even more attracted to that positive inner light force!! Release your Goddess of Light and watch how men will respond.#EXTRAdates #
4. Be Interesting
Men like exciting women. Have opinions. Talk about what you are passionate about. If you have children, do not go on and on about their minutaie. Just give them the cliff notes, children are a dime a dozen. They want to hear about YOU and what YOU are about. An emotional, personal information exchange promotes powerful feelings of connection! Be witty; humor is sexy. Why? Because it shows them you are smart, and smart is also sexy. Having a sense of humor showcases your verbal intelligence. This is a HUGE selection indicator. Personality is sexy. If you are a bore snore he will be running for the door for some much needed oxygen.#EXTRAsparkle
Step Two: Your Appearance and How to Appeal to the Visual Animal
5. Being In Your Best Shape
We all know this is a very sensitive topic and I don’t want anyone to get offended. I am not saying that all women have to be skinny. I use the word fit. I recommend being in your best shape, however that looks to you. This is KEY to looking and feeling your best. It’s a fact of life that men are visual animals girls; they fall in love with their eyes, not their ears. This is how the male brain is wired. There is a direct ratio to the number of dating options you will have when you are in your best shape. Trust me, when I tell you this is true, I have been on both sides of this fence. This is the ROI of getting in shape.
6. Make Up
There is definitely a consistent theme to what men find attractive in this department. Hands down, they like some effort put into enhancing the natural beauty you already have. They do not like layers of foundation topped with assorted powders finished off with tremendous amounts of fake tanner. Men can spot this a mile away. You will be known as “Base Face” who rolled around in Doritos. Make sure your false eyelashes aren’t too out of control and look like two black spiders sitting on your eyes. Minimalist application is best and definitely encouraged.#EXTRAnaturalbeauty
7. Hair
Every man has their own preference on this but the the overall opinion is to just make sure you feel good about it. Men do visualize femininity when they see a woman with a bountiful head of hair that looks robust and vibrant. Healthy hair is sensual hair. Hair seduces men. #geeyourhairsmellsterrific
8. Clothing
Clothing can be a real differentiator when it comes to being attractive to men. The main point is that your clothes fit you well and flatter your shape. Men do not care how expensive your clothes are, they just want to see your shape. Men will think a woman is attractive no matter what she is wearing. Whether a woman is wearing jeans and a t-shirt or a $500 dress, he will find her equally attractive. If a woman is really EXTRA and wearing a paper bag, men will still ask her out. Now, I am not saying here to put on your stripper heels and your mini skirt that is sooo short you see your cookie. Being too skimpy for high quality men is a turn-off. Men are actually more attractive to women who leave more to the imagination. Super fashionable may scream, “I’m high maintenance and I will spend all of your money”.🤑 That could work against you. In conclusion, the best way to dress is in something that is sexy yet cool and understated. Wear something with interest that catches everyone’s eye. Dress appropriately for the venue. Don’t wear your jean cut off shorts to a chic restaurant for dinner. Don’t wear the black shift office dress to the summer BBQ either. Choose clothing that makes you feel confident and beautiful.#EXTRAunicorn
9. Smell
We are keeping this clean here girls and we are talking about perfume. Nobody likes this over done. Men like light scents that will appeal to their sense of smell. Smell memory is strong, so don’t skip this touch. It is important to leave them remembering each sense about you.#EXTRAfresh
There you have it, those are my tips on how to make yourself more attractive to men. You don’t have to be a supermodel to attract a guy. In fact, a few simple changes to the way you present yourself can make you instantly more attractive to men. I can’t guarantee they will help you meet your soulmate, but they will certainly improve your chances.
Stay EXTRA,
