It’s really not fair, is my thinking. Nobody loves a fairy when she’s old. Everyone likes the magic from the younger girls. Society is telling me that my bloom is off, my better days are past and it’s such a shame because I used to be a real looker. If you are a woman, the inevitabilities of aging can hit you hard. There is a constant swell of female anger about the curse of invisibility that falls upon us when we reach a certain age.
Being ignored is hard to handle. Many a male gaze passes through the 50 year old and settles on the younger woman. There is ambivalence of course. Take the whistling construction guy for example. There is only one thing worse than being whistled and ogled at, and that’s not being whistled and ogled at. It’s outrageous and humiliating to be sexualized as you walk past the construction site. Until it stops, and you feel crushed by the unfair advancing of your years. Hurled into invisibility you go as you still feel like that gorgeous 25 year old girl. You don’t hear about these complaints from men as they head into their golden years as a dignified Silver Fox.
I know there is no way around growing and looking older. But, I’m fighting this as best I can which is why I have taken this cover photo. I am determined to still be regarded as sexy, youthful and relevant. I’m trying to inspire you to do the same. Refuse to become invisible. I’m proud that a construction guy recently yelled to me “I want to dip my spoon in your puddin!” I still got it at 52. I’m sure feminists might not like my reaction, but I’m proud I’m not too old yet for a solid flirtation.
HAPPY 52ND TO ME!!!
Stay EXTRA–
